My problem is, when it's bedtime and we're reading, Emily will say she needs to pee. Normally, she doesn't say, she just does. In her pants, that is. She also denies it if she has pooped, and chooses a diaper over a pull up most of the time (though I insist on the pull up, even if it IS basically the same thing...) A couple of times now she has said that she pooped and jumps up so we can go change her diaper. But when I check, there's no poo, so I make her go back to bed. She gets really upset, but I think it's because she's trying to prolong bedtime. When she tells me she needs to pee beforehand, I take her to the potty....and she just sits on the toilet. And sits. And sits..... Now, if she really needed to go pee, it wouldn't take her a half an hour to do so. And *I* want to go to bed!! I'm tired, can't stand there all night waiting for a tinkle.
She has peed before, she knows how and knows the feeling. Got very excited when it first happened. Now I feel she is just being stubborn.
So, I'm torn as to what to do. I want to encourage toilet use, but she's abusing the privilege! Or whatever...
Tonight she sat, didn't go. She had pulled the "I pooped" manuver, so I humored her and let her sit on the potty, hoping she might poop there. She farted, but no poop. Or pee. She said she wanted a candy (my MOM has been giving them candy when they potty...so-so when they are in training, but if they are going ALL day with no accidents, stop with the candy!! Yeesh...) So I told her if she pooped in the potty she could have a candy. A few minutes later she said she was done. No poop. No pee. She still wanted a candy and I said no. She was very upset, naturally. Even at this age she has the attitude that if it's something she wants, she's entitled to it, it's her right.
So...any suggestions on what to do about the potty break abuse? I'm fairly certain she is working me over and prolonging her going to sleep, but i also don't want to say "just pee in your diaper"....
The kids (nearly 3½) are in the long process of potty training. Nick is doing WAY better than Emily. At school anyway. With me, they always say they don't have to go....but I'll work on that one.